Nancy Mommy Naging SingleD

By Nancy D. Galang, M.A. "Be brave enough to heal yourself even when it hurts." - Bianca Sparacino To heal means avoiding excess baggage as we journey in life.  Healing is a process. To some it happens quickly. To many, like me, it takes a longer time. When I became singleD, there were many things, activities, events and people that I avoided to shield myself from any more pain. I avoided going to Church because the first few times my kids and I did, I was so envious of the families there with a mom and a dad. I didn't want to go to restaurants to eat out with my kids because I would miss his (my ex) presence. I rejected the idea of going to see movies in theaters because I would normally do that with him. I didn't go to watch gigs of bands in bars because I would remember him. I kept away from any of his relatives and friends not because I had anything against them, but because I knew it will help me move on faster. Up to now...

By Nancy D. Galang, M.A. Dad,  Thank you for teaching me how to be a man, even though I'm your daughter. From Pinterest When I became a singleD mom, I also became a dad by default. The absence of my ex (the father of my children) in our lives forced me to step into the daddy shoes. I thought it was hard but interesting. In the beginning, mga Nan-sis (Nanay-sisters), the most difficult was making sure that I had all our loans and daily expenses covered.   How did I deal with this daddy role of providing? I just accepted and embraced the fact that there was no one to rely on. At that time, I was so overwhelmed with the financial matters I was facing that I had no time to wallow in self-pity. So I had to face them head-on. No time to be bitter, just all the time to get better. Assuming the daddy role of providing for the family means getting extra work as much as I can. Another daddy duty was driving my kids to their parties, e...

By Nancy D. Galang, M.A. "As much as you want to plan your life, it has a way of surprising you with unexpected things that will make you happier than your original plan. That's what we call God's will."   - Author Unknown In my last blog, one of the lessons I wrote about was allowing God to surprise us. Indeed, just a few weeks back, God surprised me - and the rest of the G Skwad, with a wonderful gift. Let me share what the great surprise is with you, my dear Nan-sis (Nanay-sisters)... (Drumroll please!!!) The SingleD mom is now going to be a SingleD LOLA!!! Yes, one of my daughters is infanticipating!   And you are finding out about this at the same time as my parents and my siblings! Nastassia, my second daughter, is accidentally (and surprisingly) pregnant. I do not really cherish the thought (not yet anyway) of being called a Lola, a Grandma or a Granny, but having a baby in the family is something that makes me hopeful and even mor...

51 Life Lessons from a SingleD Mom: Part 2 By Nancy D. Galang, M.A. Allow God to surprise you. Hello mga Nan-sis (Nanay-sisters)! So here's Part 2 of my 51 favorite life lessons series I started last week. And yes, if you didn't LIKE and SHARE this blog last time, DO IT NOW and GET A FREE EXCLUSIVE "SINGLED" MUG from me! (Don't forget to PM me the screenshot ng pag-share n'yo.)  Meantime, enjoy reading another 27 life lessons from me. 1)     Read the bible and other self-help books.   I love reading books that will help me improve. And the Holy Bible is the ultimate guide in my daily life. 2)     Write journals. Ang pagsusulat ng journal (where I can write memorable events and important feelings) is a helpful practice para sa akin. This helps me process my thoughts and feelings.  My daily practice: Writing on my journal.  3)     Pray like a little child. Sabi nila, when you want s...