SingleD and Looking Forward

SingleD and Looking Forward

           By Nancy D. Galang, M.A.

"Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen". - Author unknown

At a loss for what to write about for this blog as I try to veer away from being melancholic due to recent events in my life, I figured, maybe I can share about the things that a SingleD mom like me can still look forward to. 

Amidst this pandemic, we all need to keep a positive attitude and think about better things to come. Kailangan mag-focus sa magagandang bagay na maaari pang mangyari sa atin pagkatapos ng lahat ng ito.

We can choose to stay positive despite this
pandemic by focusing on the things
we can still look forward to. 

Sa tingin ko, marami pa naman akong mga bagay na gusto pa makamit at matupad in my life - things that I look forward to which inspire me to go on each day.

At the top of my list is finally having all my children finish college and to see all of them working.

I look forward to that kasi una, wala na 'kong babayaran na tuition fees! Hindi na ako matataranta when due dates come and I do not have enough cash for it. Mabigat ang magpaaral lalo na pag SingleD ka. I would consider as one of my greatest achievements kapag napagtapos ko ng college lahat ang mga anak ko.

Of course, I am excited to see all of them as professionals and, hopefully, doing well in their chosen fields.

I look forward to being on
a flight where Nix is on duty

Nix, my eldest, is the only one working as of now. She is a flight attendant in an international airline. Before the lockdown, we were planning that I visit her where she is based and book a flight where she is on duty so I can be one of her passengers. The thought of her in her nice uniform and asking me and getting me what I need during the flight makes me smile. I hope that after all the travel restrictions due to this pandemic, we can finally do this as we planned.

I look forward to Nadja (my youngest daughter) finishing her Multimedia Arts course in less than 2 years. Then, maybe, she can finally be full time in her career as a dancer and put up her own dance studio.

I look forward to my kids achieving

their own goals.

Rocky, my bunso, is studying to be an Interior Designer, and one day, I look forward that he will design renovations in our house, and kung mamarapatin pa ni Lord, in our dream house. And yes, perhaps in another house na bakasyunan.

One of Rocky's designs. Looking forward 

to him one day designing renovations in our house.

This brings me to another thing that I always look forward to - my home projects. Fixing the house is really one thing that gives me joy and it's always a work in progress. One of my hobbies is buying old furniture and refurbishing them. Of course, doing so makes me look forward to the outcome. 

My latest purchase - pre-loved rattan chairs. 

Can't wait to have cushions made for these. 

I am also always excited to have my quiet time while having my coffee in my balcony. One day I hope to turn it into this. (see second picture below).

This is my balcony now where I usually
hang out and have my alone time.

My ideal balcony. -  CTTO

I guess this is where my apo is going to get her morning sun regularly. Nastassia, my second daughter, who at present is 7 months pregnant, maybe can think about working when her kid is a few years old.

So yes, another thing I look forward to is our baby girl who is soon to come by December. Mag-aamoy baby na sa bahay namin!

 Not really looking forward to being called a "lola"
but ready to give Nastassia motherhood lessons. 

If you have been reading my blogs, you know I will soon become a lola. Honestly, the part of being called a lola is not something I look forward to (kasi nga ngayon pa lang po ako nagdadalaga!), pero yes, the part of having a baby in our house seems to excite me. I also look forward to giving Nastassia her Motherhood 101 lessons. Aba, pagmamayabang ko talaga na expert po ako d'yan because I was a hands-on mom ever since.

Bigla kong naalala how I was so fond of shopping for clothes for my babies then dressing up my three girls (kadalasan terno terno!).

From L to R: Nastassia, Nix and Nadja, my "dolls"
when they were younger. 

I have also figured out which part of my room ko ilalagay ang crib. Hindi lang ako sure if I am looking forward sa puyatan kapag nasa akin ang baby. I have trouble sleeping lately and I do not think her cries at night is something that will help me.

Anyway, I mentioned earlier about a vacation house. Doon magtatakbuhan ang mga apo! Yes, one of the things I look forward to is building a bakasyunan, perhaps puwedeng retirement place ko na din one day. Antipolo, Tagaytay, or in Baguio maybe. I am not a beach person, ayaw ko nang mainit. So a cool place na mataas, overlooking a very nice view, is what I really like. Then all my children and their own familes will stay there on weekends. Ang saya malamang ng G Skwad!

Someday I look forward to building a vacation
house for the G Skwad right here! 

I also look forward to travelling with the G Skwad. Sa ngayon, one time pa lang kami nakapag-travel nang buo kami. It was such a fun experience and super enjoy kami. Kaso mahal talaga, and being a SingleD mom di ko naman talaga ma afford. It was possible because Nix split all the expenses with me. Thanks Nix!

I am looking forward to more travels with
the G Skwad.

Before the pandemic, we were planning to go to Japan. This December sana. But of course, at the rate this whole health crisis is going, mukhang far-fetched pa. But yes, like most of us, we are dreaming when we will be able to do this again.

I still want that business I have in mind to finally be a reality. Actually madami akong iniisip pero hindi ko pa lang maasikaso sa ngayon kasi may full time job pa ako. I know that when I finally decide to retire (mukhang matatagalan pa naman po at marami pa akong obligasyon) I am not the type to just settle at home and grow old and weary. Without a career or a business, I think I will wither and die!

Pero little by little, I am teaching my children now to start their own small businesses, lalo na mas may oras sila nowadays. Gusto ko rin sana, if I will be able to put up a business, it will grow to be a family business for the G Skwad.

More time with mom is one of the
things I hope to be able to do.

Isa sa mga pinakaimportante for me now is to be able to spend as much time with my mom. I still look forward to spending more years with her. Now that she has decided to stay in Lipa, Batangas, I am allocating a certain amount of my monthly budget to be able to visit her regularly.

Spending time with my mom recently in our

vacation house in Lipa, Batangas.

Of course, I look forward to seeing my dad again one day (ayoko po sa anyong multo!). I know one day we will be together again. Pero, dad, di pa sa ngayon ha. Like him, marami pa akong gustong gawin. Kaya gusto ko mahaba pa buhay ko.

Someday I will be with my dad again, 
but I hope not in the near future! 

I also look forward to becoming the best version of me. Gusto ko pa mag-improve as a person. I am thinking of taking my doctorate or MBA perhaps. Masarap mag-aral. Huling nag-aral ako, I took up filmmaking. I had so much fun and of course madami akong natutuhan kahit ako yata ang pinakamatanda sa class! 

Looking forward to losing 20lbs.
 and growing my hair this long.

A better version of me will also be being at my ideal weight. If I lose 20 lbs, super saya na 'ko nun! Aside from wanting to look good at my age, I would really like to be healthy. Kaya sana matuloy-tuloy ko lang ang pagwo-workout.

Lastly, I look forward to being DoubleD. Yes, from singleD, sana maging doubleD! Binubulong-bulong ko na po 'yan sa daddy ko. Na padalan na n'ya ako nang makakasama. Honestly, parang ang lungkot tumanda mag-isa.

Ngayon nga lang na madami akong pinagdadaanan, I feel like maybe I will be better emotionally pag lagi akong may kausap kahit anong oras sa gabi.

Someday I want to switch from SingleD to 

DoubleD. 

One day I hope I will still grow old with someone who will treat me well, love me, take care of me, and support me with all my dreams. Siguro naman, the Lord will grant me this wish because I have so so so much love to give (charot!). Kaya pagkatapos ng pandemya, focus na ako sa paghahanap ng "Ayuda One." Nakaka-excite, di ba???

Kaya, mga Nan-sis (nanay-sisters), let us not fret kahit ganito ang nararanasan natin ngayon. Again and again, I always think and say to myself, matatapos din ito.

At patuloy tayong mangarap! It keeps us motivated. It gives meaning to what we do everyday. Minsan may mga araw na parang routine na lang ang ginagawa natin, pero let's remind ourselves of what we want. What we can look forward to.

Sa harap ng isang krisis like this pandemic, we need positivity. Think good thoughts and be thankful for our blessings. That makes a lot of difference. 

One day, all the things we look forward to will be right in front of our eyes. Magugulat na lang tayo. 

Kayo, mga Nan-sis, ano pa ba ang mga bagay that you look forward to? My final tip: Write/list them down, because writing them down helps you commit to them physically, and helps you visualize them better when you read your list later.

Until then! Catch you later. 

Nancy Mommy