Nancy Mommy Naging SingleD

By Nancy D. Galang, M.A. "Those we love never truly leave us. There are things that death cannot touch." - Jack Thorne How does one deal with the pain of losing someone? I have no answer as I deal with this staggering feeling right now. The G Skwad recently lost our Baby Bella, the newest addition to our family, a female St. Bernard given to us as a gift by my student Shiina for Mother’s Day and, if I may say, for her long time friendship with my daughter Nix.  The G Skwad (Galang Squad) complete with our three babies: Milo, Beyonce, and Bella. Bella was barely 5 months old.  Ang sakit pala. And this reminds me of a painful experience I had way back 2007.  Ngayon ko lang ulit naramdaman ‘yung ganitong klaseng pain sa tanang buhay ko. ‘Yung feeling na gusto mo ngumalngal (if this is a better word to describe 'yung parang sasabog ang dibdib mo).  Gusto mo s’ya ibalik. P’wede ba mag-negotiate kay God na ‘ibalik na lang? Na ‘wag na lan...

By Nancy D. Galang, M.A. "To look ahead, one must learn to look back." - Henry Dreyfuss Kung minsan, kapag nagmumuni-muni ako sa veranda or sa gabi when all is quiet at nakahiga na 'ko bago matulog, tinatanong ko ang sarili ko, bakit nga ba ako naging SingleD?  While it was happening and unfolding right before my eyes, I, of course,  did not have time to answer this question. In that situation, para kang na-Ondoy, sunod ka lang sa malakas na agos ng bagyo at baha. Labanan mo man, mahirap dahil sobrang lakas ng force of nature! And there’s nothing you can do but to just try to keep your head above the water and stand strong amidst the big waves. But now that I think I am coming to terms with it, it is also good to look back and try to find out why it happened, why our once intertwined lives have become untangled? Bakit nga ba?  1) We were different on how we tried to solve problems.     Hindi ko itatanggi, malakin...

By Nancy D. Galang, M.A. “ The day that you discover that you are in charge of your life is the day your turn your life around. ” – Patricia Fripp When we face major trials in our lives, we tend to lose our grip. SingleD moms are definitely not spared from this.   Today, I wish to talk about the challenges, failures, and triumphs of some of the singleD moms I know. When my marriage was still intact, I have always been in awe of singleD moms who were raising their children alone yet it seemed so natural for them. Little did I know that deep inside, they were trying so hard not to explode and lose control over their lives. I had to BE one to know this so well. When I chatted with Monina (Mon-I, as we fondly called her in college), lagi naming binabanggit na di namin akalain na mangyayari sa aming dalawa ang maging singleD. We were both in the Student Council, feeling namin smart girls kami, pero WHY? Then we just ended up laughing about it and saying, “We can’t...